How many times have you not happened to think about what is going on in your child's mind, which seems not to rush in any situation, to look empty or to move in replay, believing that he has all the time in the world to pull his socks? to stand or to descend 4 steps? How many times has it not happened to get out of your mouth "hurry", without trying to respect the pace of the little one and, especially, without thinking about how this urge affects him? You know why you shouldn't rush the little one?
What are the situations in which you hurry your child?
Whether we are talking about specific situations in which we have to rush, both we and the children, or most of the times in a normal day, the word "hurry up" seems to be most often used in the parent's vocabulary.
You are always on the run, the day seems like a race against the clock, where you have so many things to solve and places to reach. When you are a mom, a lot of the activities you do with your child, so he is forced to live your life at your own pace: "hurry, we are late," "hurry, we must reach the doctor in 20 minutes, "" hurry, we have something else to do besides having breakfast "," hurry, grandpa is waiting for us in the park ", do you sound familiar?
How the child perceives the situation and how you can act better as a parent
Your intention is to cause the little one to complete an action in order to start the next one. What you don't realize is that, just that "hurry up" can be the cause of many delays in the child. He does not understand this urge and does not see its usefulness, how to hurry when they are so discoverable? Despite your clear message, the child can receive all kinds of contradictory signals, and his actions happen with the slower:
• The child may become anxious because he does not understand what is expected of him and what he must do to be satisfied. You can try to guide him rather than hurry him: "pull your pants on and run to warm yourself" or "take two more teaspoons and then take the plate in the sink". By saying more than "hurry up" and telling him exactly what to do, you will redirect his attention to what you expect from him, and he will better understand the steps to be taken;
• The child can even receive the message "it is more important what I have to do than your person and your needs". In this sense, it might be useful to use something that is pleasing to the child to make him hurry: "We have a way to solve something, but you know that as we finish faster, we reach the park at your friends and you can play at will ". Knowing that something he wants to happen will feel more motivated.
Apart from the tricks listed above, you might also consider an aspect that is strictly about you and your organizational capabilities:
Allocate an "extra time" for whatever you have planned in the program
It goes without saying that a child needs more time to do things. If we talk about a toddler, you also have to consider the unexpected: to change the emergency diaper after you have just dressed and you are ready to go out the door, to go back after the rabbit without leaving nowhere but still he forgot to look at his house or simply look for one of his shoes to wear it, a shoe that seems to have disappeared in the dark of night. Try to make your program according to how long you know it is needed, not the time you hope to get things done. Allow 10-15 more minutes to start planning, you will certainly be quieter and you will not do things in a hurry.
The rush hurts the job and slows the development of the child
Children need not to rush. Yes, you read it right, they need it! In the first 6 years of life, the child's brain is programmed to learn. This is how the human brain is built so it needs a longer period to process all the information it is bombarded with. During this time, the little one comes into contact with the surrounding world, learns how to relate, is put in different situations from where he simply understands how things work.
After the age of 6, the child begins to use all the acquisitions acquired over time, becoming more independent, more cooperative and more rational. The child's rush only slows her development and ability to know the world and its functionality.
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