Love is the strongest feeling in the universe. It heals wounds and high spirits. When you love your children and treat them with kindness, gentleness and respect, creating a warm and comfortable home around them, they will feel your love as a positive force that helps them become better, stronger and happier. As adults, they will demonstrate self-confidence, self-esteem, increased emotional intelligence and communication skills that will ensure their success in society.
A house full of kindness
Family life and community have a major impact on the self-esteem and the image that the child makes about his own person.
It is true that you cannot always control what is happening in school or how your children are treated by their colleagues. But you will always have control over the home environment. The tone you use, intentionally, when you talk to your child becomes the voice he will always carry with him. Therefore, it is very important to use a tone of encouragement, a voice full of love, patience, support and acceptance. No other person will have such a big impact on your child, as you have, through your voice.
Images and language with which children come into contact have the power to shape their world. The messages they receive, as well as the behaviors they observe in adults, can be harmful to their emotional development. As a parent, you have the power to intervene positively in shaping your child's self-image, by giving up thinking biases and behavioral stereotypes.
The most important factor in this equation is the home environment. He represents the constant in the child's life, the place where he should feel the best and safe. A positive family environment automatically attracts the development of a positive self-image, trust and a balanced attitude.
Here's how you can help your children feel good and safe at home, trust them and make positive choices:
1. Praise and encourage them
Children communicate with you when you encourage them through compliments, praise and constructive feedback. If you criticize their skills and do not congratulate them on their efforts when they succeed in completing a task, the little ones will close in on them and think that they will never be good enough to succeed.
The words you say to your child today, as well as your attitude towards them, will have a major impact on them when they become adults!
2. Show them your love
The hugs, the parental kisses, the tolerance together on the couch and the words of love are the reflection of the love you carry to the children. Your affection helps them to feel comfortable and express their feelings when something hurts, they suffer emotionally or feel the need to unload.
It is very important to show your affection when they get hurt, do something wrong or break a certain rule. It is the supreme proof of unconditional love, the confirmation that you love them exactly as they are, no matter the circumstances.
When your children hurt your feelings, put your pride aside and show them love and forgiveness. Your kids know when they are wrong, be convinced of it. They don't need to explain to them what they didn't do well, but to know that you love them anyway. Your forgiveness will cause them to avoid repeating the mistake, more than a thousand penalties can do.
3. Don't use heavy words
Words like "stupid", "natang", "fat", "ugly" or "ticalos" should never be pronounced in your home. Even if the little ones hear them at school or in other public places, once you enter the house, those words remain at the door. Your home must be a safe haven for them. Keep them away, especially when they are small, from TV shows, cartoons and social media in which licentious language is used.
4. Give them a positive example
Children learn from their parents how to behave and talk to others, but also how to perceive themselves. If you complain that you look ugly, don't be surprised if your daughter comes to one day to say about herself as ugly. Feeling good in your skin is just as important as trusting yourself. If you are good and forgiving yourself, you will pass it on to your children.
Children are the mirror of their parents. They internalize the way you behave with yourself and those around you. The son gets to dress in the style of the father, whom he admires. The daughter uses the same words as her mother when she explains to her brother that she does not like what she is doing. This is how he learned to speak at home, so he expresses himself.
Be honest with yourself and ask yourself the following question: is there any behavior related not only to how you act, but also to how you relate to your own person, who needs improvement? If so, then it is time to change your behavior so that your children do not follow a negative example.
5. Spend time with the children
The easiest way you can create a positive atmosphere for your children at home is to spend time with them. You do not have to spend a fortune on fabulous vacations, it is enough to make time for family meal, ice cream or chat with them in front of the TV.
6. Give the children individual time
Spend time with each child separately, without changing your routines. It is never too early to try to talk to each other about your feelings and to make sure the lines of communication are always open.
If one of the children needs to talk to you about a negative experience or share the fact that someone has hurt him / her, he must know that you are his refuge and that he can come to you and talk openly about what is disturbing him. A positive family environment contributes to the child's emotional intelligence and ability to communicate.
7. There are no perfect homes and no perfect parents
Maintaining a positive family environment is a permanent goal. Of course there will be quarrels, emotional outbursts and outbursts of anger. People are not perfect, and intense events have the power to destabilize anyone.
Yes, it is very difficult to be a parent, but your affection for children is natural, you must not make any effort to love them. Show them your love even when you do not like their behavior and use the words chosen and kind regardless of who listens to you: children, other adults or yourself.
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