That baby you were holding in your arms suddenly started to walk, talk and show attitude. It got bigger. He has style. He grabbed you with his little hands and now he is playing with your fingers. Young children are a whirlwind of fun, disorder, challenges and lots of love.
The first years of your child's life represent a transitional period, in which he learns that there are times when he must be separated from his mother and father. The little boy slowly realizes that he has his place in the world, while the parents learn, in turn, how to cope with raising a child.
Here are three simple tips that will help you to enjoy the first years of your child's life:
1. Change your perception about children
Raising young children comes with a lot of direct warnings about how "terrible" they can be. Some people will probably advise you to "put your foot down" and show them who the boss is. Others will warn you that your children will "try to manipulate you" and "take control at home." It's weird, if you think about it: children are innocent, a blessing to parents. How is it possible to become a tyrant throughout the first two years of your life?
The answer is one. There are many toxic cultural messages that can poison your brain if you don't object. These broken preconceptions of reality make you look at your children in a negative light. And if you, as a parent, come to believe that little ones are terrible manipulators, they are they will come to behave as you perceive them.
Parents who fall into such a trap come to regard their children as ungodly to be fined. This distorted perception of the image of their own children causes the adults to change their behavior towards the little ones. They may feel treated with disrespect when children make noses. In reality, the little ones try to satisfy their primary needs.
By choosing to reject these negative messages and see your children in a positive light, you will enjoy their presence more, respond better, and your connection will strengthen. And do not forget: your perception forms the reality in which you live. Choose to live in a positive reality.
2. Learn how the brain of children works
The brain of a small child is also small. It has much to analyze, and the prefrontal cortex, responsible for logical thinking, impulse control, strategy formation and planning, has not yet developed.
Secondly, young children are not naughty. They just have needs. They have been on this planet for only a few months. They still have so much to learn! And they will learn, as they grow. Believe in the learning ability of your children and guide them gently.
Last but not least, young children get to believe in themselves what you think about them. If I hear you constantly saying that they are naughty, these words will creep into them, making them behave naughty. If you want to behave beautifully, talk nice about them, with them.
One last tip: stay connected. Continue to build a positive relationship, to form a balanced child. Remember that no one is perfect. Your child does not need to be perfect. He just needs your unwavering love and gentle guidance.
3. Be patient
Infant behaviors are often listed as evergreen. As the toddler learns to use the toilet, control his reactions and give up grinding, he will communicate and sleep better, learn to share things and share thoughts. All of these skills are learned in the normal process of growth and development, as the brain evolves. It supports the harmonious development of your child, giving him positive examples of behavior.
It is true that after a hard day, milk spilled on the table or a toy thrown on the floor can annoy you more than normal. By promoting peace in the midst of chaos, you will enjoy more of these beautiful years, which never return.
Tags Mother life Parent-child relationship Parenting