As they grow older, children seem to stretch their parents' nerves to the max and endure their endurance test. The independence that preschoolers are beginning to acquire seems to contradict what their parents want from them.
Find out where parents often fail in preschool education!
Experts argue that the age of 3-5 is one of the most active for children, but also frustrating for parents.
Inconsistency in your daily routine!
Consistency is essential for the education and harmonious development of preschoolers, pediatricians argue. When you go into his daily routine, the child becomes confused and does not understand what is going on.For example, if the child has lunch at a certain time each day, but for a while you postponed it for another hour or two, the child will not understand why he no longer has lunch as before, and in the following dates. you will most likely refuse to eat at the time previously set in the program and you will not understand why.
Be consistent and maintain a stable program of growth and education when it comes to discipline, sleep or meal hours!
Focus only on the morons and ignoring the good deeds!
Often parents tend to criticize everything that children do wrong, but do not notice what they do well. And that would be nothing, if they weren't so eager to point them to any little nuisance they make: "stop yelling", "don't play with the vase, break it", "I told you are you not doing this anymore?
But how many times have you said, "I like it and I'm glad you played quietly now", "look what a beautiful castle you did", "I'm glad you want to help me in the kitchen by bringing me vegetables" etc.?
Observe his positive behavior and appreciate him always telling him this and rewarding him either with a kiss, a hug or a bombshell.
Imposing games and hobbies!
In the modern era, parents are oriented towards enrolling the child in various courses and classes on various topics, to help him develop harmoniously both physically and psychologically.
You have to know that even if you have signed up for dances, painting classes, singing, etc., they do not substitute for the simple and free play of children. When you take them to classes they do what you have to some extent imposed on them, but they also need to play "by themselves". This means that they play by doing what they choose to do: it involves choice, will, responsibility.
Give him freedom in choosing the way he wants to play. If he comes to help you in the kitchen, do not refuse it, for him it is not a domestic activity, but a play that he wants at that moment.
Lack of involvement in children's play!
When it comes to play, another mistake that parents make is that, leaving them overwhelmed by daily worries, they forget to spend more time and play with their children. They often prefer to let him play alone while they cook, mails, telephones and other tasks.
It is important to spend time with your little one and play with him. Even half an hour every day, in which to get involved in body and soul (to be enthusiastic, to give you interest, not to be distracted by other activities) means a lot to his development, showing him that he is interested in what do, how to play etc.
Exaggeration of reactions when the child lies!
When a child begins to lie, parents often start to panic and see this as an end of the world. Experts argue that little lies at the preschool age are normal and represent a cognitive evolution that has a deep emotional load.
Remember that you were lying to his age and did not happen to become Pinocchio at maturity! Do not exaggerate with the reactions: do not scream, do not frown and do not focus on the object of the lie, but on the behavior.
Find out more about this topic in the article What do you do if your child is lying?
Encouragement and surrender in front of the child's smugglers
Kids don't always do what you say! Then they start to cry, to kiss, to grin, until the parents' nerves are fully stretched and they give up letting them do what they want!
Each time you give in to these pitfalls, you just build a real strategy to always do what you want, knowing that this is the solution to fulfill any desire.
And here comes the consistency, experts say! Not to give in to these requests and pressures of the child means to get out of his mind that in this way he can get what he wants!
There are so many beautiful courses to take for children, that you could not abstain and enrolled at least two. After that, you notice that there are some play programs in certain centers and you go there. Where else do you have a home program and hours of study together with you etc. You also know from a neighbor's training center for preschoolers and do not hesitate to register.
The result: overloading the child! Even if you want to do a little of everything, make sure he has free time in his program, in which nothing is programmed, to relax and to do what he wants: playing, watching cartoons, spending time. with you etc.
The child is not a robot, but a homizer who needs moments of rest, otherwise you may wake up that he is not getting enough sleep, no longer resting, no longer eating, all against the background of fatigue.
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