Teaching the child what the spirit of competition and fairplay means, but also how to be in the position of winner and loser and how to treat them both is a good way to learn life lessons that will be useful to them at maturity. . It is necessary to teach the child to accept the defeats and to learn everything that they can from the first years of childhood to succeed in life and easily adapt to the life of the adult.
Competitions for children
The win and the position of winner contribute to the strengthening of the self-esteem of your little one. But the flip side is that he has to learn and accept with his forehead that he cannot be a winner in any situation and that sometimes there is nothing wrong with losing. The ability to win and lose in an elegant way are two essential qualities that they learn from competitions.
Group games are the ones that promote these essential qualities in children and which parents should always encourage in their children.
The spirit of competition, when it can appear in children?
When the child is able to follow the rules. At preschool age, about 4-5 years old children are able to follow simple rules of not very complicated table games. But they are not capable of making strategies. Only at the age of 7-8, children are prepared to follow more complex rules and make small strategies to influence the outcome of the game in their favor. However, it is important to keep the atmosphere relaxed and to make the game a fun so as not to lose your patience and interest.
Kids love to win every competition. Many experts argue that it is good to let the child win from time to time. If you do not, you will not be stimulated to play again. But it is essential to help him learn to lose. If he always wins when playing with you he will have difficulty adapting to playing with playmates from grades or school.
How do you learn to lose it in an elegant way?
Be an example for him!
Your behavior in such situations will serve as a model for your little one. The way you react when you lose will influence his behavior in the same situation. If you accept the defeat with the forehead, reconciled with the idea and hoping that maybe next time you will be better than him, the child will know that there is nothing wrong with losing. If instead you get upset and start throwing left and right, the child will understand that it is awful to lose and that is how you should react.
Don't deny her feelings when she loses!
If he is upset that he has lost and manifested some sadness do not try to deny these feelings. Empathize with him and share his disappointment! Tell him that it is okay not to feel comfortable in such a situation, but that it is not a tragedy and that he can take revenge next time. But it does not accept inappropriate behaviors such as screams, hysteria crises, blows and even ugly talk.
Be careful what you say when you lose in front of him!
Not only the way you behave when you lose is essential but also what you express verbally. It is useful to refer to your own person when you lose to make him realize how good it is to feel and believe in such moments. Don't empower him by telling him he is an invincible player, too good for you, because he will have the impression that no one will ever be able to defeat him. Tell him "I would have liked to win this time, but this is it, maybe next time I will succeed." By the age of 5, children can already understand that they can't even win every time.
Help him improve his strategies!
Help him gain experience in certain games and improve his techniques. You can teach him to set realistic goals within games to aim for as long as possible, but without cheating. As he gets closer to the intended goal, he will be pleased, whether he wins the game or not. He will realize that he has done everything he can with what he has at hand and this will give him some satisfaction and reconciliation with himself.
Don't be competitive!
It is important to help the child understand that winning is a consequence of the game and not its purpose. By eliminating the competitiveness of the game and transforming it into a fun, relaxing activity, you can still sweeten a bit of the bitter taste of defeat.
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