Some parents feel rejected by their own child. They try to offer gestures and evidence of affection, and the child turns his back, often hurting their feelings. You have to know that the disposition of the child, especially at preschool age, changes very often. There are thousands of reasons why this could be done. Here are the most common causes of baby stubbornness and what to do!
Causes and solutions of rejection in children
Have a bad day!
And your child is allowed and may have a bad day, even if you feel like there are no causes for it. The reasons may not be similar to those of adults, but they can be overwhelming for them. You may have quarreled with your best friend or been derided at school. There are a lot of events that can make him feel sad.
Respect her desire to be lonely and sad, but make sure you are there if she needs you. Like you, the child also needs time to "lick his wounds", and when he is ready he will come to you.
He recovers after a fit of anger
After having a hysteria and taking disciplinary measures to calm him down, you can't expect him to worship you. He was just arguing and maybe punished for his behavior. His feelings have been hurt and he wants to know about it. Or he can just be tired of so much groping and rolling on the floor.
First of all you have to accept that the little one (though he shouldn't) is disappointed and upset. Put yourself in his place for a bit and think about how it is forbidden to buy the long-dreamed dress. Or remember your mood after a fight with your best friend. You need some time to get back, right? Then give him some recovery time.
Before you respect their intimate space and desire to isolate yourself for a while, show them that you understand what they are feeling and what they are going through. Tell her "you don't want to talk to mommy because she didn't let you take your toy, did you?" Let him know that you are there if he needs a hug or a kiss and make sure you love him very much.
Not feeling well
If he suddenly changes his mood from a well-being to a mood and apathy, then he may be sick. Ask him if something hurts or he feels bad.
For added certainty, it would not hurt to go to a doctor's office too.
He's upset with you and doesn't know how to tell you
Sometimes you can tell when he's upset. Most often, anger occurs when you punish him or forbid him to do something. At other times you may not realize why he is upset with you. For example, it can be very sad because you were gone for a while and missed you or because you spent more time with his younger brother than with him.
If you think there is a reason why you reject your affection, talk to him. Ask him questions, but be gentle. Ask him this way: "Are you upset with me for not spending enough time with you? Are you upset because my mom was gone x days and we didn't stay together?" and so on Accept the answers without upset or criticizing him.
It can go through the stage of gaining independence!
While up to 1 year the child cannot detach from you, from 3-4 years onwards you will almost never touch him. You will be eager to do as many things yourself and explore a lot of things. Your child will need less and less of you and this is encouraged.
You do not have to interpret that he loves you less or take everything too seriously, you must think rather that he is keen to explore the environment and to show that he can even pop, dress and so on.
This is commendable. Try to show him the evidence of affection when he is not concerned with assembling a lego, destroying a cardboard box or other activities that have caught his interest. Keep these moments for the evening before bed.
It only rejects the affection of one of the parents
Does the child reject your evidence of affection? Or just your dad's? It is possible that the child is closer to one of the parents, but this should not be taken as a personal affront. The children change their favorite parent depending on the mood and the one who likes them the most and spoils it.
You don't have to worry too much. If you are the one who most often rejects him and punishes him when he is wrong, you might be the one who agrees less. If your dad starts doing this, you will get into his graces almost immediately. But, lover, he loves you both so much! You have to be sure of that!
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